March 27, 2012
Anytime someone does something out of the norm, there is likely to be naysayers and backlash. Even when it comes from an inconsequential source, words can burn like a brand.
I have had to remind myself that those words usually sprout from a lack of understanding. I'm a softy and I'll be the first to admit that I allow my feelings to get the best of me sometimes. However, it is hard to be gracious when my family is the brunt of their need for self-approbation. Someone recently said to my husband, "so you're going to move to the farm, homeschool, and live off the land. Ha!" While it was a totally distorted statement, the underlying implication hurt.
I have had to do a lot of deep soul searching over the last 7 months. Even though we don't feel the need to defend our decision (though some tried to make us feel that way), there is merit to explaining our choices.
1. Sometimes the BEST decisions are the HARDEST. Yes, we have a wonderful situation living next door to my parents. We'd love to pack up the two houses and move them both to the new piece of property.
It isn't about leaving them. It's about making wise decisions for our own family.
2. It's never too late to make wise financial decisions. We made many stupid financial mistakes early on, and now we are paying for it. Basically, we can't afford to live in the house we are in now. We need to sell our home (ASAP) and use the equity we have in it to start fresh.
3. We know what we are getting ourselves into. We already live 12 minutes from the nearest grocery store, so we're used to the drive. Adding on 6 more minutes is totally worth it.
4. We are not rednecks. I still like monograms, polka dots, and an evening out on the town. Just because we are choosing a different lifestyle than most, doesn't mean we have a camouflage bedspread.
5. I am proud of my husband. Even though we have made some mistakes along the way, he is willing to step up and do what is best for our family's wellbeing. Blood, sweat, tears, and all!
6. What's wrong with what we are choosing? We think it's pretty cool that our kids will know where an egg comes from, how to mow a couple of acres of grass, and all the other responsibility living on a farm will bring.
7. Homeschooling has nothing to do with it. Just because we are currently homeschooling doesn't mean we want to isolate ourselves from society. In fact, we've had more visitors to the farm in the last 6 weeks than we have in our own home.... and we LOVE it!
8. We are not Doomsday Preppers. We leave that to the Nat Geo peeps. Yes, I'd love to grow enough to share and put away for a rainy day. I may even learn how to can beans!
9. We want to share with others. We hope to share the fruits of our labor with our community. We see our new farm as a place to bless others. Hospitality is our love language and we can't wait to get started!
10. It's our life. I don't judge my friends for living in a neighborhood (how ridiculous would that be?!) This is the life WE are choosing. It's radical. It's different. We love it!
To sum it up, we believe this is where the Lord has brought us. We desire to honor Him with our decisions. We give him the glory. Who can argue with that?? :)
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