Encouragement: a balm of words to the soul
In a society inundated with children being pushed to be the best at everything they do, we sometimes lose focus on who they are. I fear we are creating a generation that will not know the value of being over doing; character over accomplishments.
What a lonely soul my child will grow up to be if she feels valued only because of her accomplishments. I need to intentionally give words of affirmation to the person my child is and her importance as a member of our family.
Here are a few ways we've tried to instill encouragement into our daily conversations.
1. Say "I love you" multiple times a day. Those three words, when repeated (genuinely) hold such power.
2. "I'm so glad I get to be your mom" is a phrase I try to say every single day. It speaks words of love and teaches them that motherhood is a gift.
3. When I used to pick my kids up in the carpool line, one phrase I used each afternoon in the car on the way home was, "I missed you today." I wanted my kids to know that they still remained in my heart even when we were apart.
4. One of the phrases I've been working on is, "you sure make my life fun." Yes, we have tough days, but for the most part, I wouldn't trade this time of my life for anything. They need to know that they bring me joy.
5. This last one is tricky because it requires balance. "You make me proud." We all need to hear that, even as adults. I just have to make sure they know I'm proud... without the expectation of perfection.
My own mom did such a great job being my cheerleader while I was growing up. The Lord knew I needed her encouragement; after all, my #1 love language is words of affirmation. :)
Keep up the good work, fellow moms! Your words will last a lifetime!